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Posted on June 6, 2010 at 11:04 AM Comments comments (0)

I work at a national helpline. A woman called yesteday to ask how to give some news to her finace. She was afraid to tell him. Over the half hour I spoke with her, I found out that she had been with this "douche" (thank you, Mel) since she was 16. Now they're engaged and will be married in 6 weeks. I asked her why she was afraid, and she hesitantly told me he had a bad temper. I asked her if he'd ever hit her. She was silent for a moment and then said, "Only twice." What?! He had clearly brainwashed this woman into thinking that EVER hitting her was ok. She said it was her fault she made him that angry. This cowardly piece of filth convinced her that she made him do it. I asked her if she forced his arm to raise and then dropped it on herself. Of course, she said no. I told her that she didn't "make" him do anything. He consciously made the decision to strike her. He put his desire to indulge in his anger above her importance in his life. That is absolutely inexcusable. Abusive men seem to think that hitting a woman makes them more manly somehow. It the exact opposite. How could they possibly think that overpowering someone who is weaker than them shows any kind of maturity? They are small, cowardly, primitive, unthinking, misogynistic, losers. My mother says we still have to love them as Christ would. I have a hard time having mercy for anyone who chooses to harm others just to make themselves feel powerful.

Canadian Genocide Revisited

Posted on June 5, 2010 at 10:50 AM Comments comments (1)

It's been a while since I talked about this issue, so I felt it prudent to refresh your awareness by re-posting a previous blog.

The US isn't that great either when it comes to the Native Americans. I've just started watching another documentary. I'm only 10 minutes into it and I'm just sick and disgusted. If you don't know, Residentail schools (in regard to Native Americans) are schools that NA kids who were stolen/taken from there families were forced to attend. They lived there and weren't allowed to speak their language, express their beliefs or culuture, etc.The last one in the US closed in 1986.That's bad enough, but this documentary is about Residential schools in Canada where children were systematically KILLED and MOLESTED. Even worse, it was in the name of the church (I believe Catholic, but I'm not done watching yet).The people who decided to do this are no better than Hitler. Watch Documentary.

Society Sucks

Posted on June 23, 2009 at 1:28 PM Comments comments (0)

I am sick to death of what this society has done to us as women. Watch the video at the link.

Why Is Abortion Different?

Posted on November 17, 2008 at 7:45 PM Comments comments (0)

If you think about it, no other surgical/medical procedure can legally be performed on a minor without parental consent. Hmmm...

Life at Conception?

Posted on November 11, 2008 at 12:19 PM Comments comments (0)

I'll tell you why I believe life starts at conception (that doesn't mean I may learn something later that changes my mind). First, there are the Bible references to God knowing us before we were even a thought in someone's head. Here are just two of them:



Ps. 139:13-16


For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother's womb. I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well. My frame was not hidden from you when I was made in the secret place. When I was woven together in the depths of the earth, your eyes saw my unformed body. All the days ordained for me were written in your book before one of them came to be



Jeremiah 1:4-5


The word of the Lord came to me, saying, "Before I formed you in the womb I knew you, before you were born I set you apart; I appointed you as a prophet to the nations."



Second, the moment that the egg and sperm join, certain things are already determined: eye/hair/skin color, fingerprints, and even some aspects of personality (the last one is heavily documented in twin studies). Not only that, but just by what defines "life" in the scientific sense, we see that even just with 2 cells, the embryo is alive:


Conventional definition: The consensus is that life is a characteristic of organisms that exhibit all or most of the following phenomena:

  1. Homeostasis: Regulation of the internal environment to maintain a constant state; for example, electrolyte concentration or sweating to reduce temperature.


  2. Organization: Being composed of one or more cells, which are the basic units of life.


  3. Metabolism: Consumption of energy by converting chemicals and energy into cellular components (anabolism) and decomposing organic matter (catabolism). Living things require energy to maintain internal organization (homeostasis) and to produce the other phenomena associated with life.


  4. Growth: Maintenance of a higher rate of synthesis than catabolism. A growing organism increases in size in all of its parts, rather than simply accumulating matter. The particular species begins to multiply and expand as the evolution continues to flourish.


  5. Adaptation: The ability to change over a period of time in response to the environment. This ability is fundamental to the process of [micro]evolution and is determined by the organism's heredity as well as the composition of metabolized substances, and external factors present.


  6. Response to stimuli: A response can take many forms, from the contraction of a unicellular organism to external chemicals, to complex reactions involving all the senses of higher animals. A response is often expressed by motion, for example, the leaves of a plant turning toward the sun (phototropism) and chemotaxis.


  7. Reproduction: The ability to produce new organisms. Reproduction can be the division of one cell to form two new cells. Usually the term is applied to the production of a new individual (either asexually, from a single parent organism, or sexually, from at least two differing parent organisms), although strictly speaking it also describes the production of new cells in the process of growth.


There are Bible verses that people site that they believe support the idea that "life" doesn't begin till the baby takes its first breath. I've read those verses, but I don't see what they see. What has been revealed to me thus far makes it very clear that God's definition of life is far more inclusive than our own. You'll have to make up your own mind.

Our President

Posted on November 5, 2008 at 10:50 PM Comments comments (0)

I could say that I couldn't have said it better myself, but we all know that's not exactly true (love you, Tom). :)


"Obama is President ? Now What?

I have always believed in voting but I have never been a political geek. I get the basics information about the causes I care about to see how I wish to vote or, on topics I don't understand or know enough about, I abstain. However, this presidential race was different. I wasn't glued to the TV like some (though I did finally get to see "The Incredible Hulk" on DVD last night), but my lap top was open the whole time I watched the movie as I hit refresh every five minutes or so to get the latest results...:namespace prefix = o ns = "urn:schemas-microsoft-com:office:office" />


I think my peeked interest had to do with the fact that I was conflicted this election. I struggled with if I was going to vote for the guy that I thought was the best for the economy, health care, the war in Iraq, and so forth, then I must admit I was leaning towards Obama. If I voted for the guy who has the most experience, stood where I do on many morality issues, that I respect, and the like, then I would vote for McCain.


I struggled personally (though you may have it all figured out) if I should vote for government positions on the questions of who would do the best on the morality issues or the who would do the best on the issues of the land (yes they can be considered the same). Who did I vote for then? A guy by the name of None Ya. To be quite honest, it has nothing to do with the real reason for this post anyways.


It is the day after and Obama is the president elect. You may be thrilled like those highlighted in that park in Chicago last night or you may be grieving that McCain will not be in White House. I know it has been a passionate issue for many including those in the Christian community.


I have to say, that there have been moments that we as the body of Christ shined during this process (bringing issues to the public that God cares about), moments we took our hits (I love the "Daily Show" but Christian beliefs are often punned or jabbed), and we have embarrassed ourselves (Obama is not the Anti-Christ and I was saddened by the "letter from a future Christian" from Focus on the Family). That all said, it's in the past. What matters now?


Well, Obama is a done deal so deal with it. Whatever your political beliefs, we have our first African American President (if you don't like what I'm saying because he is African American, then that's a whole other prayer request that you can get over it in love and truth) and it's time to stand together as a nation behind him.


We do not need to come together because it's the "American" thing to do. We need to come together because it is Biblically right to do so.


Romans 13: 1-3


Submission to the Authorities


"Everyone must submit himself to the governing authorities, for there is no authority except that which God has established. The authorities that exist have been established by God. Consequently, he who rebels against the authority is rebelling against what God has instituted, and those who do so will bring judgment on themselves. For rulers hold no terror for those who do right, but for those who do wrong. Do you want to be free from fear of the one in authority? Then do what is right and he will commend you."



These words Paul wrote to Christians in Rome were under a much tougher government than you and I. They were under the very government that would soon put Paul to death for his faith. Keep this in mind as you read his instruction. Paul did not submit to authority when it conflicted with the highest authority of Christ but he did in any other way.



"But Tom, our country is nose diving! The economy is crashing, the war is still raging, millions are without jobs and health care, pro life causes are on the ropes, should homosexuals be able to get married, gas prices are soaring (actually they are not, I would love to see the TV commercials saying that go away), and the like??. What are we going to do!?!"



I hear ya (on most of that). I am a small business owner of a Christian bookstore that is on the ropes. I am a pastor in a community where I am talking to many who are scared, hurting, and challenged. My wife and I are making some decisions now we have not even considered our first 8 years of marriage. However, we remember this?.



Psalm 42:11 


"Why are you downcast, O my soul? Why so disturbed within me? Put your hope in God, for I will yet praise him, my Savior and my God."


So if my hope is in God, and if no man receives authority outside of God's direction, then it is time to unify. If any president deviates from God's will, we use our voice to protest and stand up. However, it is way too early for that right now. You may feel strongly against that but I pray you may be able to submit yourself to some time of quiet before the Lord and see if the Holy Spirit ministers to you to be angry and fearful or if the Holy Spirit ministers to you to pray.


Wow, aren't I on a little tangent? What sparked this?


Well, to be honest, an email I received from a friend of mine named Sarah from My Space this morning. We do not know each other well and I am quite humbled that she thought of me. I pray it is with her blessing that I share a part of the email I received from her now?.


"Hi Tom! I was hoping now that the election is over, you would send out a bulletin or post a blog reminding people to pray!... I am quite sick of hearing people complain about both candidates. It doesn't matter who they voted for what matters now is that we pray for the safety of our President elect, the safety of our country, the courage and strength to continue forward out of this path of destruction we're on. Most of the world sees this as a huge barrier broken, so why can't we? I know you can put this into better words than I can, and elaborate further?


God Bless!



I am not a political pastor and I have said VERY little outside of my closest friends about the election. However, Sarah's heart inspired me that this call to pray is too important to not be a part of. The only thing that I disagree with Sarah on is this, she put it much better words than I could.


Let's get on our knees America and pray for our new president elect!"

Copied from Tom's site.


Posted on November 4, 2008 at 5:39 PM Comments comments (0)

I voted today, but I'm not happy about it. Actually, it was fine voting for some of the local issues, but our choices for President are woefully lacking. I know, I've talked about this before. I actually talked to one of my pastors a few days ago because I still didn't know who I should vote for. He said that obviously I'd have to pray about it, prioritize the issues and their stances on those issues, and vote for the candidate that I felt God was leading me to. I did that. (No, I'm not telling anyone who I voted for; I have too many friends, family, and acquaintances that are hard core left or right, and I don't want to get into anything with any of them; it's not worth it.) Now, I have to trust God.

The king's heart is in the hand of the Lord; he directs it like a watercourse wherever he pleases.     Proverbs 21:1




Men & Women Think Differently?!

Posted on October 28, 2008 at 3:46 PM Comments comments (0)

Well, anyone who's ever spoken to someone of the opposite sex knows that this is the case. I'm not here to try to explain why (people have been trying to figure that out for eons), but one of my friends recently shared his theory regarding how we think differently. While he was sharing this with me, I was thinking about the various people I know of both sexes, and what he said seems to be pretty accurate. So what's this free bit of wisdom?



He said that men think in file cabinets and only one file can be open at a time. Typically, the reason that file is open should be resolved before closing that one and opening another one. They don't like to leave things unfinished. Women think in roadmaps; we think of all possibilities and outcomes and plan/worry accordingly. Things are often unresolved because we don't mind coming back to it later. He said that's also why women carry things like stain remover, baby wipes, lip balm, etc. They are prepared for almost anything that might appear on their roadmap.



He gave a pretty good example of how this works. He and his group of friends are getting ready to go out for dinner and maybe a movie. The guys have now opened the file drawer for food. That's the only thing they're thinking about. The women, however, are thinking about where to eat, what they're in the mood for, which restaurant has the best of what they're in the mood for, which movie, which theater, which restaurant is fairly close to that theater, who'll drive, how many cars they should take, and the list goes on (no, it really does). Of course, the women will ask the men for their input (sometimes), but the men haven't closed the food drawer yet, so they have no interest (Jason says no ability, but I don't want to assume) in even thinking about all the other questions. So, the women get frustrated that the men aren't helping with decisions, and the men get frustrated that the women haven't resolved the food issue yet.



What can help this situation? Jason suggests that first; they need to choose a restaurant. Once that's done, the food drawer is resolved and can be closed; and another drawer can be opened. That seems pretty simple, and everyone is happy.



Of course, there's variation among individuals and I think of it as a continuum; some men multi-task better than others and some women don't multi-task as well as the rest of us. Either way, this seems like a good way to approach communication between the sexes. I told him he should write a book, but he said it's too simple to fill a book. He doesn't blog, but I thought people should hear this, so I did. I hope it can help you.


Posted on October 24, 2008 at 2:01 PM Comments comments (0)

I'm pretty cynical, at least about our government. Well, really it's about the people in our government. On a scale of 1-10, with 10 being all-out, perfect trust and a belief in an unerring government, I'm about a 3. I can't say that I'm a 0; if I did, then I should move out of the country. If I say it's 0, but I stay here, then I better shut-up about the government or do something about it. In theory, our set-up is a pretty good one. Unfortunately, it has to be run by people who are fallible, greedy, and ambition-driven. I do not believe that anyone can work in our government for any length of time without becoming part of the corruption, back-scratching, etc. They are there for themselves, not us. Don't kid yourself. Anyone who knows me knows that I can't stand politicians.



Anyway, this leads me to what our role is as Christians. We have to understand that God is the one who chooses who is or is not the President, whether we think they agree with us or not. He chooses them for a reason, and we are not here to judge Him. Even if I don't like what a President has done (I have yet to be happy with one, by the way), I still have to respect the office.



Our pastor talked about respect in relation to the fifth Commandment. There are three levels to the kind of respect we're to show to one another:

·         Respect based upon human dignity (James 3:9-10)


·         Respect based upon position (1 Peter 2:17)


·         Respect based upon character and deeds (1 Timothy 5:17)


Yes, Pastor Terry was talking about within the family, but I think it's pretty obvious that this kind of respect extends from there. He may/may not engender respect by his character or deeds, but just the fact that he's a fellow human (and a child of God) and is in a position of authority, I should show him respect. Even if I don't like what the President is doing, it's no call for disrespect. Period.



I'll be watching this in myself, will you?




News Flash

Posted on October 17, 2008 at 2:31 PM Comments comments (1)

I have some shocking news for some of you: sexual activity, even with protection will ALWAYS mean that pregnancy and STD's are possible. You can't "accidentally" have sex or "accidentally" get pregnant. You know what you're doing can cause pregnancy; therefore, it's not an accident. If I decide to sky dive, I know there's a chance my parachute won't open and I could die. SO, I don't sky-dive. Am I missing out on some fun? Possibly. Am I missing out on possibly dying? No, I'm good, thanks. If you really don't want to risk pregnancy or STD's, don't have sex. I know, it's radical. I've heard people say it's hard to abstain. That may be, but we're not animals; have some self control.



If you decide to have sex, don't act all shocked and bowled-over if you become pregnant. You know it's a possibility. If you think you're ready for sex, then you better be ready for a child or an STD. Take responsibility for your actions.

Money Sucks

Posted on July 28, 2008 at 5:31 PM Comments comments (0)

Or rather our need for it does. Why can't the days of Star Trek be hear now? No one would need money, I wouldn't be freaking out about paying my bills, no one would care about the price of gas, etc. That sounds heavenly. Unfortunately, I'm here and in this time, so I do have to deal with it. When is the government going to wise up? I'll tell you when: when they benefit financially from helping US citizens. This may sound cynical, but the people in our government don't care about us at all. I've said this a thousand times to my friends: the government, big business and the media are in bed together. None of them make decisions without thinking about how it will benefit their bottom line. It has nothing to do with what's best for this country or its citizens. If any politician says anything else, they're lying.


Posted on July 7, 2008 at 10:44 PM Comments comments (0)

Common sense is woefully uncommon.

The Proclaimers

Posted on April 28, 2008 at 6:25 PM Comments comments (0)

My friends convinced me to go see the Proclaimers in Pittsburgh. We had so much fun, which I'll have to write about later (too much happened). Anyway, on the way back, they were schooling me on the lyrics, and I found a song who's words I've needed more times than I think is fair. I thought I'd share:



Don't give it to me

Your life is full of misery
Well take something for it
Or try to ignore it, don't give it to me
You trapped me in this corner
You're breathing it over me
Next stop's the Royal Infirmary

The room's started spinning
I'm finding it hard to breath
I think I'll have to leave, I need some air
That little black cloud
That follows you everywhere's
Floating my way and it's raining despair

Now I'm not immune to misery myself
But it's just a bore in somebody else
If you weren't allowed to talk of yourself
You would have nothing to say

Your life if full of misery
Well take something for it
Or try to ignore it, don't give it to me

Your life is full of misery
Well take something for it
Or try to ignore it, don't give it to me
You trapped me in this corner
You're breathing it over me
Next stop's the Royal Infirmary

Now I'm not immune etc...

The Morning After Pill

Posted on March 31, 2008 at 2:42 PM Comments comments (0)

I'm re-posting a blog I wrote a while ago. It's still relavent, and it still pisses me off.



I'm riled up again. Recently, the Morning After Pill (MAP) has been made available for purchase over the counter (OTC) by anyone 18 and over. I have several problems with this. 


1) Many times a woman thinks she needs it and she's not even ovulating. Her chances for pregnancy are low enough without affecting her cycle needlessly with the MAP. In addition, even if the pill's taken within the first 24 hours after sex, it only lowers her chances of pregnancy by 89%. Each day after that, its effectiveness decreases. Also, the FDA and the manufacturer of the most widely used MAP (Plan B) have only approved it for use up to 3 days after sex. There are doctors that will prescribe it FIVE DAYS AFTER SEX! These women & girls are ingesting chemicals into their bodies that serve no purpose whatsoever other than to screw with their systems. 


2) The MAP has NOT been tested!!!! Barr Pharmaceuticals (Plan B's manufacturer) lists their "research results" on their website. All of their research was on the Progestin Only Pill (Pop's), which is a birth control pill, not emergency contraception. "Contraindications for Plan B: Progestin-only contraceptive pills (POPs) are used as a routine method of birth control over longer periods of time, and are contraindicated in some conditions. It is not known whether these same conditions apply to the Plan B regimen consisting of the emergency use of two progestin pills. POPs are not recommended for use in the following conditions: known or suspected pregnancy; hypersensitivity to any component of the product; and, undiagnosed abnormal genital bleeding." ( They haven't even research the MAP as an emergence contraceptive! 


3) I had to wonder why Planned Parenthood would be supportive of something that claims to lower the chance of pregnancy. After all, they make a profit from unwanted pregnancies. Then I found this: "Under a five-year agreement, Planned Parenthood would be able to buy Plan B from Barr at bargain-basement prices, undercut local pharmacies, and clear an average $20 profit on each Plan B kit? One of the documents is a February 9, 2004 e-mail from the PPFA vice president of medical affairs, Vanessa Cullins, M.D., to all Planned Parenthood affiliate CEOs. The executives were told that Planned Parenthood was "in the midst of confidential discussions" with Barr and that Planned Parenthood's "immediate interest is to develop and protect our market base." ?a product that Planned Parenthood purchases for less than $5 and sells for an average of $25? not only is Planned Parenthood making a huge profit, but because of the "special pricing" from Barr, it is able to undercut its competition. ( (Note: I have not yet confirmed the information from this article. I will do so, and invite any information from readers.) 


4) Where does it stop? It's already OK for the male to buy it. What's the big deal you say? Think about it: pedophiles & rapists would want to buy it before their atrocities. They might consider it a little insurance. Don't think it would happen? Pharmacists don't always check ID now when giving it out, and worse has already happened. It came out in the news recently that registered sex offenders had not only been prescribed Viagra, but had been able to fill the prescription! If something that heinous can happen, how much easier would be for them to buy something that doesn't require a prescription and for which ID isn't checked diligently? 


5) People treat hormone meds (i.e. Birth control & MAP) like they're no big deal, but they are real chemicals that have real consequences. "They're just hormones." Well, so are steroids, and they're illegal. Birth control can cause depression, anxiety, mood swings, headaches, cramps, nausea, weight gain, stroke, heart attack, and the list goes on. Do you ever hear about those things? Of course not. It's not just a simple thing to ingest these kinds of chemicals, but women do it without a second thought. It's ludicrous. 


6) The MAP works in one of three ways: a) it stops ovulation, b) it thickens the cervical fluid which stops sperm from getting to the egg, or c) it prevents a fertilized egg from implanting in the uterus. This last is an abortion if you believe that life begins at conception, which I do. I'm not ok with abortion as a form of birth control, so I'm not ok with this third possibility. Even the manufacturer can't predict which way it will function.




Planned Parenthood shows racist leanings

Posted on March 26, 2008 at 4:52 PM Comments comments (0)

I don't know how many of you already know this, but the founder of PP, Margaret Sanger, made it very clear on many occassions that she started PP to get rid of minorities and the poor. Even if you try to give her the benefit of the doubt when reading her clearly, unambiguously racist quotes, more than 75% of PP's are in poor, minority neighborhoods. Well, they've shown their stripes once again.

Some highlights of a recent article:

( - According to telephone conversations taped by a student pro-life publication, The Advocate, at the University of California-Los Angeles (UCLA), Planned Parenthood locations in Ohio and Idaho agreed to accept money targeted at minorities even when racist intentions were expressed.

Planned Parenthood: "If you specifically want to underwrite it for a minority person, you can target it that way. You can specify that that's how you want it spent."
"Okay, yeah, because there's definitely way too may black people in Ohio. So, I'm just trying to do my part."
Planned Parenthood:
"Hmm. Okay, whatever."
"Blacks especially need abortions too. So, that's what I'm trying to do."
Planned Parenthood:
"Well, for whatever reason, we'll accept the money."

For the full article